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Matrimoney

The devil's workshop is at it again dusting the cobwebs of what are considered everlasting ideas and human beliefs for millenia.

One of them is 'Matrimony'. It is not a misspelling in the title but perhaps a sliver of doubt upstairs (in the noggin) about the whole notion of that term. In the world we live in today the overall construct has come far from having the adjective 'holy' or 'blissful' or lastly 'everlasting' to be attached (almost synonymous at one time as one could argue - depends on which one is arguing of course) with it.

Be it at whatever social station couples are having a hard time at it. Scores of science and research has gone into trying to analyze and understand the drivers and the shot guns (if you will) of making this extremely demanding structure survive or not.

Various geographies on the planet show varying levels of maturity in what constitutes a 'Energizer' pairing vs. letting it as they say 'fall apart'.

Cannot help but say that the vows (in whatever belief system one adopts) almost could tend to be contractually rewritten to reflect the reality by saying things like - I thee lease - this spouse - as is without warranty - for a period of X cycles of the sun - and unless otherwise at fault will continue to renegotiate the said lease till either parties do us part.

For the ignoramus out there - matrimony is also called Compromise. If you cannot do it you are out of luck. Certain upwardly mobile communities have found that pairing and co inhabiting without documenting of their said status works well. That way there is no administrative issues with the arrangement for as long as it survives and tends to solve for the otherwise costly hammer from the financial and legal services industry (which in cases of matrimonial destruction tend to benefit the most).

Having said that let me go back to my being a devoted spouse and enjoy time with the nuclear family!

Desi Pravasi

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